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____________, I am so sorry to hear of the brokenness in your marriage and the unfaithfulness of your husband. God is able to bring healing and wholeness to YOUR life! I know, because God has done this is my life. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” (Psalm 34:18) God has seen every tear you have cried. God promises that those who put their trust in His name will find healing and be set free from the brokenness of their lives. (Malachi 4:2)
All that you are going through does not change the fact that YOU are of priceless value and precious to God. Our Heavenly Father loves you deeply. God’s word, the Bible, confirms this truth over and over. Romans 8:38 says that “nothing can ever separate us from the love of God.” Even as I write this, I am praying specifically for you, __________, that you will be able to understand just how much, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep is Jesus' love for you. (Ephesians 3:18) The truth that God loves you so very much is the most important thing that I will say in these next few paragraphs. Finding complete wholeness and healing in your life can only begin as you put your trust in Jesus and accept His great love for you!
God is able to restore any marriage. However, both the husband and wife have to be committed to being faithful and to doing whatever is necessary to love and respect each other. As long as there is unfaithfulness in a marriage, there cannot be trust, intimacy, genuine love and the ability to rebuild that marriage. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 tells us that love should be patient, kind, and not keep record of being wronged; love never gives up, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance. God calls husbands and wives to love each other with this kind of love. When there is unfaithfulness in your marriage, God can give you the wisdom and the strength to hold steady in your marriage and to be the wife God would want you to be, regardless of how your husband responds.
But when a spouse is unfaithful, and not willing to repent and change, the unfaithful spouse is the one who has broken the marriage covenant made before God. God knows everything. So only God knows whether or not your husband will ever choose to change, repent and be faithful again. It would be God’s will for your husband to change, repent and be a faithful husband that loves God and loves you. But because God knows the heart and thoughts of each person, there are times when God releases us from a broken marriage, because of the hardened heart and unfaithfulness of the spouse. Only God fully knows you and your situation, and only He can help you to know the right thing to do.
Psalm 87:5 tells us that God is good and “full of unfailing love for all who ask for His help.” God can give you the wisdom to know what you should do in your situation, and He can give you the courage to do it. Philippians 4:6 tells us to talk to God about everything and to ask God to help us to know what to do. And when we ask God to help us, He does! “The Lord says, ‘I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you.’” (Psalm 32:8) As you trust God with your life, fill your thoughts with the truth of who God is and ask Him to help you with each decision every day, you will begin to experience God’s peace, an amazing peace unlike any you have ever known. (Philippians 4:7)
__________, may I pray with you:
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank you for _________. I thank you that you love _______ even more than she can understand. Jesus, you know every detail of the pain and brokenness in her life. You have seen every tear. I ask that you would do a healing work in ________’s heart, mind and emotions. I pray that your peace would surround her.
God, I also pray that you would work in ________’s marriage. I pray for her husband. I ask that you would work in his heart and life. I pray that you would open his eyes to see that his unfaithfulness is wrong and that it will not only destroy his marriage but also his own life. I pray that he would choose to love ________ and to be faithful to her. I pray that you would bring restoration and wholeness into their marriage.
God, I pray that you would protect _________. Give her wisdom. Give _______ the courage to do what she needs to do. Help her to know what to say, what to do and to be able to think clearly. I ask, God, that you would flood _______’s mind and heart with hope…hope for the future and hope for all the good things that You want to do in her life. I pray that you would bring people into her life that would give her wise advice and that she would recognize what is truth from You.
God, I know that You always hear us when we pray and that You can do more than we can even ask or think. We choose to trust You, God. We thank You that You are already at work for ________’s good. In Jesus name we ask all of these things, Amen.
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