I try every day but the hurt and pain is just so much.

Inquirer's Comment:

I have lost my wife and I just can't live without her. I try every day but the hurt and pain is just so much.

Reply:

I am so sorry to hear of your great loss. You sound devastated, and I don't blame you. I would like to pray for you right now.

"Father God, You know that Theo is undergoing a terrible loss right now. You love him and understand what he is suffering. I pray for his healing in this time of loss. May he find your grace and presence. I pray in Jesus Name."

Each of us have our own journey through grief, and no one really understands what another is experiencing. I do know a little of your experience, my wife of 50 years passed away just over six years ago. There was total disbelief in my mind at the time of her death. Then I cried for days, every time I saw something of hers in the house. It was like 'Is she nearby?'

There were two things that brought comfort and peace to me. First I knew that she believed in Jesus and was safe in heaven. Secondly, I maintained my daily time of reading the Bible, and praying and found peace in the promises of God's word.

The counselors I talked with were men of faith, and they urged me to reread the Gospels and the Psalms during those first weeks and months of my loss. It helped me to highlight verses that gave me comfort, so I could find them easily again. They also told me that the average time of healing from grief is about 24 months.

If you need to communicate and talk about things, please know that any time you reply to this e-mail, it will reach me personally, and I will be honored to keep in touch with you, my new friend. God bless you.